I’m on my soapbox today.
Thoughts circulating about what REAL relaxation is – which is going to look very different to everyone – a good friend of mine is a runner…. her dream day is to run for about an hour (I want to vomit after 2 minutes), whereas mine is long hot baths, cups of tea and books.
What if we were ok with this?
What if it was ok to do things differently to that other mum/colleague/neighbour/friend?
What if you decided that you weren’t ‘behind’? Or what you were doing was ENOUGH?
There would be a goddamn revolution of relaxed women.
When did we start to wear our ‘busyness’ as a badge of honour?
When did lose the ability to say ‘no’?
When did we start to see relaxation and ‘doing nothing’ as lazy?
I’m calling BS right now.
To be productive, to have all the ‘balls in the air’ so to speak (work, kids, home-life, social life, gym/exercise, extended family, etc., etc., etc.) we need DOWNTIME.
To balance hormones, we need downtime.
To digest our food, we need down time – when we are in that ‘fight or flight’ mode (which is where we are every time we feel busy, overwhelmed or stressed) we turn off digestion, as we don’t need to digest food when we need to run from the predator right?
We need to be in the ‘rest and digest’ mode, where digestion is turned on, we are absorbing out nutrients and sending what we need to all our lovely cells, balance hormones, produce energy, balance our brain chemistry and nourish our organs….
….one of which is our SKIN….so to have clear, wrinkle free skin…we need downtime.
No amount of furiously rubbing in an anti-aging cream will substitute.
To avoid losing it at our partners and kids, we need downtime.
Part of my job is to prescribe physical medicine – herbal formulas, nutritional supplements, dietary planning – tell women what to eat and when.
Honestly, some of the biggest changes happen when we take the time to look at a YOUR schedule and work out when YOU can take that down time. What that looks for YOU.
You feel empowered. You feel in control.
Of course, I would love to work with you and help you with this (everyone needs accountability – that’s why I do yoga classes and don’t try to do a class at home – 5 minutes in, I’m wandering off to put the kettle on.
…But, I implore you, as a starting point, where can you carve out some downtime this weekend?
Will it be a long soak in the bath when the kids are in bed? (trashy novel and glass of wine, or tea)
Will it be a massage?
A long walk in nature?
Will it be reading your book on your bed? (with fresh sheets – heaven!)
Will it be a Netflix afternoon?
Will it be a weekend away (you lucky ones!)
What will it look like?
What will it take to make it happen (Often, I will tell me family that at 7:30 I am heading to the bath, so it they need anything, they better ask now!).
Remember that by filling your cup, you then have the energy and willingness to fill others and you are role modelling what self-care really is.
So here’s to being a goddamn relaxed woman this weekend!